A discourse on spiritual authority ensued in a hangout with some of my friends last week. With most of the questions been thrown at me, I did more of listening and answering some of the questions. A lady, who took interest in our round table, walked into our midst and mentioned a spiritual problem she once had and how she was able to solve it.
She explained how her she kept seeing her late grandfather, who passed away four years earlier, almost every night in a dream. The situation made her very uncomfortable as a Christian, so she decided to seek help from a pastor. He prayed with her for a long time before referring her to see a Psychic. She did see the psychic who also served as a mouth piece during an arranged “meeting” with her deceased grandfather. A truce was reached and her problem was solved. She ended up explaining how she now believes the psychic more than other means. She sought my opinion about her ordeal. I respectfully tried answering with some scenarios from the bible. I left the place imagining how many more leaders must have sent people on such mission.
Just because someone holds a position of leadership, doesn’t necessarily mean they should.
The amount of trust and confidence associated with people in leadership position has really been taken advantage of by many people to give advice in areas they have no expertise or give wrong advice or counsel. Pastor and New York Times bestselling author on leadership John C. Maxwell said “Everything rises and falls on leadership”. This simply means that how leaders carry themselves and conduct their leadership determines the well-being of their nation, institution or corporation. In his book The 21 Indispensable Qualities of a Leader he further explains that “knowing how to lead is only half the battle. Understanding leadership and actually leading are two different activities.” Dr. Maxwell explains that “the key to transforming yourself from someone who understands leadership to a person who successfully leads in the real world is character. Your character qualities activate and empower your leadership ability, or they can stand in the way of your success!”
People need mentoring and developing. Don’t seek to marginalize them before you help to develop or mentor them.
In one training for team leaders and managers I was privilege to attend in the past; the facilitator asked why we were there and wrote answers from the (ten) attendees on a white board. He then underlined all first-person pronouns I, mine, myself in our answers. He then drew our attention that nobody mentioned team members, associates or colleagues. He then reminded us that we are there because of them.
Mike Myatt, a regular Forbes magazine contributor and leadership advisor to Fortune 500 CEOs and Boards, has this to say about leadership: “If a leader doesn’t understand the concept of “service above self” they will not engender the trust, confidence, and loyalty of those they lead. Any leader is only as good as his or her team’s desire to be led by them. An overabundance of ego, pride, and arrogance are not positive leadership traits. Real leaders take the blame and give the credit – not the other way around.”
After spending years in emotional followership, I have now started investing my time and resources under leaders that appeal to my intellect instead of emotions. No more emotional followership.